Don’t let your feelings about the other parent affect your parenting. I know it's easier said than done, but with help and support and good guidance you'll always be able to put your child first. Parents who find themselves unable to control their feelings about the other parent very often unnecessarily increase their own stress, lengthen the time of court litigation, and harm their children. They raise the cost of divorce and custody in many ways that aren't just financial. Most parents’ desired goal is to protect their children. The best way to protect your child is to make sure that their happiness is more important than anything that you are feeling.